treatment can have many remedies for the same symptoms of depression and
anxiety, because there can be many causes for either one. The causes can range
from medical need, lifestyle deficiencies, and deficiencies in our living
environment among others. The depression
anxiety treatment we will talk about here is by far the most prominently needed
because it deals with the unmet, undiagnosed, invisible emotional need for love. Is the source of your depression or anxiety
because of unmet emotional needs from your childhood?
When we were growing up, we needed many things across a vast spectrum; physical, nutritional, mental, social, emotional and spiritual. When we did not receive enough attention to complete us emotionally, that created a flawed template in our minds as to how we see and interact with the world. If we do not correct it, that will dictate our relationships for the rest of our lives. Our negative experience with our caregiver set in stone in our template as to how we interact with all other persons in relationships permanently. We see no source for love, understanding, or nurturement as possible in our lives because there was none in childhood or early life, so we incorrectly believe none must exist. We may even see God our caregiver as being hostile to us as well. That leaves us believing a heartbreaking lie about ourselves also, and that is we probably did not deserve love and emotional comfort in the first place. This is where we are going to use our imagination to create a key, so we can alter our flawed template. This new template will enable us to find restoring relationships and rebuild our starved emotional life. Right now, we are picturing our depraved childhood or teen years and the damaging relationships from caregivers as the only future we can have.
Find a place and a time where you are comfortable and can meditate on a restoring primal scene. Remember we talked elsewhere about the primal scene, which is a loving, nurturing, caregiving face mirroring our needful face, so that we feel validated in all that we share to our source figure. Close out your daily life cares and go into your timeless place, where all that is there is love. In this state of serenity, envision the loving parent that you always needed, and this loving parent rejoices when you approach them, and they give you undivided attention for everything you need. They listen compassionately to everything you share. Your cares are their cares, everything you see, feel, think, choose, dream and create they want to know and encourage you in doing. You matter supremely to them. Moreover, they are so proud of you and they want you to be the unique, special you that is like no other. Focus on this, dwell on this, until it feels natural and until it tells you that this caregiving person is mirroring back your true value as God’s unique creation!
You may have doubts
and ask, ‘If this is all imaginary and not real, how is this going to help me
to heal? I need real love from a real
person in my real life not a pretend imaginary thing.’ Do not let Satan deceive you; your tool of imagination
you used much as a child to connect with all your dreams and talents. Life’s disappointments crushed your using your
imagination and you gave up on your dreams and talents. This same powerful tool
you will use now to reveal what the loving nurturing people look like that are
all around you in your life today! But
you cannot see them if you do not know what they look like. With enough practice,
you will start to feel validated as a person, just from the nurturing
interaction from your loving caregiver, which personifies God. You will start to feel loved and
loveable. When that happens, that will
give you a clear vision of discernment. Then
you will be able to see clearly loving nurturers in your world around you, and
you will be able to see just as clearly poisoning parasitic predators and
manipulators as well. Your eyes will be
opened. Over time you
will be drawn to interact more with the God sent nurturers and gradually you
will move out of the life interactions with the poisoners. Your world will move
more from having to mistrust the poisoners and grow to love and trust the
nurturers. Over time, your imaginary
loving caregivers that started in your mind, will become real life loving
nurturers and deeply loved ones in your work, community, and in your home, and lastly
in your heart.